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Preparation

How could you sure you’re ready?
We hope you could make your own decision and be responsible for your choice, don’t be influenced by others. We suggest you could share your thoughts with families or close friends; they could be a great support for you during your reunion.

Reunion is a long way to go; you may face any different feelings in this path, even if you were well-prepared, you still could be influenced by any tiny information. That’s why we hope you have stable support resources which will be a great help.

During the waiting period
The pressure and suffering is just going to begin when you start to reunite. You may not need to wait for a long time, or you may wait for quite a while, or maybe you could never have any information. And the mood swings are the usual react during the waiting period. We could understand your frailness, and you may doubt about your reunion decision, or you may feel guilty to your adoptive parents. It’s OK to feel that way, because almost every adoptee has the same feelings during their reunion process, you could try to talk about your feelings to people you can trust, that will be helped.
What may we face?
What kind of result you think you will face in your reunion? Sometimes, your birthparents can’t meet you because they have their new family and those families know nothing about you, or maybe your birthparent feel guilty about put you in adoption so they refuse to meet you, or maybe your birthparents need more time to get used to your reunion.

We make those examples to let you know that your reunion may not always goes well. If the result doesn’t fit with your expectation, we hope you could to try to understand your birthparents and try to give them more time and space to let them accept your reunion.

If you like to know more about the culture in Taiwan adoption field, you could click Culture Issues.

If there have some good news

Congratulations about your smooth going reunion, and here are some questions you could think about first.

  • Contact Mode：What kind of contact mode you like to keep with your birth family? Do you like to meet them? Or just contact with them by e-mail, letter, or phone.

  • Relationship Building：What kind of relationship you like to keep between you and your birth family? Act just like families or close friends or remote friends.

  • Information Providing：Information providing means what kind of information you like to give to your birth family. Because that’s about your privacy, maybe you could start from e-mail address; you could decide how much information you like to release.

We suggest you could let the Center be the bridge between you and your birth family, as long as your contact is stable; you could try to communicate by yourselves. That could let you two have more time to get used to the reunion.

If there won’t have good news
Reunion may be desperate for some people, such as foundlings, adoptees with incomplete adoption information. No matter how hard they try, they may neither have any information about their adoption and their birth family. We know that’s hard for them, we could feel the lost and grief from those people.

If you are one of they and you decide to reunite, here are some solutions you could think about.

  • Reunion Notice：You could provide your information to the Center or put that information in our Reunion Notice via the Center’s website, and if your birth families see those information, they could contact with us and we will try to match they with you.

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